14 – 21 April 2018
Going beyond the Inner Critic in Relationship
In this retreat we will contemplate a natural sense of ease with ourselves as we are, and exploring what gets in the way of that – in particular the conditioning of the inner critic.
This critical inner voice is a concept used in popular psychology to refer to a sub-personality that is judgmental and demeaning. It is usually experienced as an inner voice attacking us, saying that we are bad, wrong, inadequate, worthless and guilty, producing feelings of shame, deficiency, and doubt. It is a major obstacle to the path because it doesn’t allow us to simply be as we are, particularly in our relationships. According to its narrative we always ‘should be another way.’
In this retreat we will be cultivating an experience of present moment connection to our body and mind to allow what is here in our field of awareness. In this way we can see what drives us; and how often the directives of the inner critic interfere with our capacity to be at ease.
Through meditation and inquiry exercises we will contemplate the inner critic and how it impacts our relationships and affects our capacity to trust and open. And we will explore the alternative to this critical voice – a compassionate, wiser guiding quality within our hearts.
During the retreat there will be periods of silent meditation practice, inquiry exercises in groups of twos or threes contemplating specific questions related to this topic, and one-to-one interviews with Laura. Otherwise the retreat will be held in Noble Silence – not engaging in talking with others unless it is necessary. Seven precepts, a practice of harmlessness, mindfulness and renunciation, will be held for the duration of the retreat. This will take place from the Opening Meditation until the afternoon of the last day to support inner contemplation.
Laura will give talks and guided meditations, and make space for questions and comments within the group, from time to time. One-to-one interviews offer opportunities to discuss your practice and receive personal guidance.
Laura ordained as a nun with Ajahn Sumedho in 1995, and was resident at Amaravati and Chithurst monasteries for eighteen years until she moved out to live as a solitary nun in 2010. Over the past ten years she has spent extended periods of time with the Burmese teacher Sayadaw U Tejaniya.
In 2015 Laura left the monastic tradition to pursue the Diamond Heart (Ridhwan) spiritual path which incorporates both Buddhist and Sufi principles and practices.
|Day of Arrival Saturday14 April
19.30 Introductory Talk
Sunday 15 April – Friday 20th April
5.30 Wake up
6.15 Morning chanting, sitting meditation
8.00 8.40 Working period
9.00 – 11.45 Meditation, Talk, Inquiry Exercise, questions and comments
|11.45 Lunch, free time, rest
14.00 – 17.00 Meditation, Talk, Inquiry Exercise, questions and comments
17.00 Light supper. Free time
19.30 Evening chanting. Talk
Saturday 21 April- Final Day
6.00 Wake up
6.45 Morning chanting, sitting meditation
Food and Accommodation
We will provide a simple breakfast of porridge at 7.15. There will be a vegetarian main meal at lunchtime and a light supper at 5.00pm. Teas, coffee and soft drinks will be available during the day. Accommodation is in single rooms. We will provide bedding, bed linen and towels.
The cost for food and accommodation for the week of practice has been worked out using the following categories:
- Sponsor rate of £310.00 to cover the basic cost and to help those on the supported rate to be able to come.
- Standard rate of £260.00 to cover the basic cost of the seven-day retreat.
- Supported rate of £210.00 for those with limited income.
We would ask for a deposit of £70 to confirm your place. Payment can be made in instalments, by agreement, if required.
Generosity or Dana for the Teaching
The Dhamma teaching is freely given. Retreatants wishing to make a donation for the teaching can offer it to Laura at the end of the retreat.
If you would like more information or a booking form, please contact Jeremy at firstname.lastname@example.org